Funeral & Memorial Service Planning Sheet
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This six-week series, three in the spring and three in the fall, will help you and your family with conversations about end of life issues. Navigating through the various aspects surrounding death can be difficult, and sometimes intimidating. Join us for one or all of these sessions. All sessions will be held at 11:30 a.m. in the Witherspoon Classroom (First Floor) at Second Presbyterian Church (318 E. 55th St., KCMO 64111). Together, we will have conversations about the following.
Session I: 2/18/18 When Death Comes
Leaders: Rev. Paul Rock and Rev. Kristin Riegel
A conversation with clergy with an opportunity to learn and talk about what Presbyterians believe about death and what we do as a community of faith when death comes. As well as conversation about the theology of the body and what makes a Christian memorial service, and what the process is in planning a funeral.
Session II: 3/18/18 What Will Happen to My Resources?
Leaders: Larry Bingham, Estate Attorney, and Adam Pope, Chair of Finance Committee
Clarification about wills, trusts, the legal ways to provide for your family through your estate, charitable giving, and stewardship.
Session III: 4/15/18 Caring Conversations 2
An Emmy Nominated Film by Michael Bernhagen and Terry Kaldhusdal
This film shares stories about cure, relief, and comfort. Today, American medicine’s success at fighting disease and extending life has created a new problem. That is, the vast majority of patients can now expect to die in a place (a hospital or nursing home) and in a way (with increased quantity, but reduced quality of life) that most wouldn’t choose if asked. Talking about dying, which is as natural as birth, is now taboo. And, the reality is patients and families are suffering needlessly. It is a problem we never intended to create and one that must be solved, but how? (1.5 hr. in duration).
Session IV: 9/16/18 Bioethics as Conversation
Leader: Barbara Bollier, M.D.
This program will begin with a brief lesson and practicum on communication of issues related to bioethics, followed by a video which illustrates what a family faces when a person cannot speak for him/herself. Caring Conversations®, a consumer education initiative that helps individuals and their families share meaningful conversation while making practical preparations for end-of-life decisions, will be introduced to the class including Q&A. If time allows, this session will include an introduction into palliative care and hospice.
Session V: 10/21/18 Caregiving, Palliative Care, and Hospice
Leader: Maria Ferrell, KC Hospice and Palliative
No one really expects it, but at some time or another, just about everyone has been — or will be — responsible for giving care, for a sustained period, to someone close to them. Take this opportunity to learn more about identifying the various stages of caregiving and strategies/tips for navigating through the experience, and when to engage palliative care and hospice.
Session VI: 11/18/18 Your Spiritual Legacy
Leader: Bill Tammeus
A conversation about dying well and the gifts of forgiveness. And, besides sharing personal stories, the five things dying people want to share: “I forgive you,” “please forgive me,” “I love you,” “thank you,” and “good-bye.” Suggested reading: The Four Things That Matter Most: A Book About Living by Ira Byock, MD
Session I – February 18
Rev. Paul Rock
Rev. Paul Rock is thankful to be a part of a community like Second that represents a wide stretch of theological and political views while passionately centering itself on the Mission of God in Christ.
Paul graduated with a degree in secondary education from the University of Wisconsin, received his MDiv from Fuller Theological Seminary and completed Doctor of Ministry degree in 21st Century Church Leadership at Drew University in Madison, N.J. He is married to Stacey Perkins Rock, an attorney and the love of his life. Paul and Stacey have three children.
Paul loves traveling with family, a good read, pick-up basketball and strong coffee, among many other things. Paul describes ministry this way: “I try to find various ways to invite people to own their priestly calling and employ their gifts so that, together, we can be a part of what God is already doing all around us. As a pastor, my job is to do my best to point others to God and encourage their identity and purpose in Christ. Hopefully we have a good time in the process.”
Rev. Kristin Riegel
Rev. Kristin Riegel hails from the frozen tundra known as Western New York. She traded one winter for another when she went to Macalester College in Saint Paul, Minnesota. At Macalester, Kristin taught English to immigrants and refugees, engaged in interfaith work, and discovered a love of travel, running, and all things intersectional. She received her Master of Divinity from McCormick Theological Seminary in Chicago and then served as a Lilly Resident Minister at the First Presbyterian Church in Ann Arbor, Michigan.
At Second, Kristin helps adults to explore spiritual questions, grow in their faith, and connect with God and one another through small groups, classes, and workshops. She also provides pastoral care, which frequently means meeting folks for coffee to talk about life’s ups and downs. “Second is a church that is truly seeking to be faithful to God int he world by engaging in loving, just and joyful work, both within and beyond the walls of the church,” Kristin said.
Session II – March 18
Larry Bingham received his undergraduate degree from Kansas State University and his Law degree from the University of Michigan with distinction. His expertise is in estate planning and has practiced law in downtown KC for over 50 years. For nine of those years he was with the Dietrich Davis firm (former mayor Ilus Davis who was also a partner with Hubert Rowlands, a long-time member of Second). Larry started a new firm, Siegfreid Bingham in 1974 with three other attorneys.
Larry is actively involved at St. Michael and All Angels Episcopal Church. He has served on the national, diocesan and parish level. His primary ministry has been Education for Ministry (EFM) in which he has been engaged for over 24 years leading numerous small groups who are interested in learning more about the disciplines of biblical exegesis and interpretation, systematic theology, church history, ethics, etc. The primary focus of the program is on life as ministry and what that really means. Larry has served on the Board of Directors of Bishop Spencer Place.
He listed in The Missouri and Kansas Super Lawyers and the Best Lawyers in America as a Trust and Estate Attorney.
Session III – April 15
Consider the Conversation 2: Stories about Cure, Relief, and Comfort
See the description included above.
Session IV – September 16
Barbara Bollier, M.D. and Kansas State Senator, District 7
Senator Barbara Bollier is a graduate of the University of Kansas School of Medicine and worked as an anesthesiologist for 12 years before retiring to spend more time with her children and expand her volunteer commitments. She has served as President of the Missouri Society of Anesthesiologists and was on the Shawnee Mission Education Foundation for 3 years. She is a former elder and trustee at Village Presbyterian Church, as well as a former elder at Second Presbyterian and Grace Covenant Presbyterian churches.
In 2001, she was asked by the Center for Practical Bioethics to chair a steering committee directed toward improving pediatric palliative care in Kansas City. Since that time she has given a great deal of her time to working on Caring Conversations for Young Adults, which is an advance directive written for 16 to 25 year olds. She has taught two courses in the Bioethics Masters Program at KC University of Medicine and Biosciences. To learn more, be sure to check her website at www.barbarabollier.org.
Session V – October 21
Maria Ferrell, MSN, APRN, ACHPN, NP-C, Nurse Practitioner KC Hospice and Palliative Care
Maria Ferrell has specialized in caring for patients with life-limiting illnesses and their families since 2000, and has been with Kansas City Hospice & Palliative Care since 2005. A graduate of the University of Missouri-Columbia with a master’s degree in nursing, she is board-certified as a clinical nurse specialist in adult health. She is also board-certified as an advanced practice registered nurse in palliative care, and as an adult-gerontology nurse practitioner. She received the American Academy of Hospice & Palliative Medicine Mentorship Award in 2007-08. Maria has a special interest in outpatient palliative care.
Session VI: November 18
Bill Tammeus is the former Faith section columnist for the Kansas City Star. He started in 1970 as a reporter, spent nearly 27 years on the paper’s editorial page and then moved his column to the weekly Faith section in March of 2004. He took formal retirement in mid-2006 but continued as Faith section columnist on a freelance basis until mid-November 2008. In addition to his daily blog, Faith Matters, Bill writes a monthly column for The Presbyterian Outlook and a biweekly column for the online edition of the National Catholic Reporter.
Bill is a graduate of the University of Missouri School of Journalism. Bill has received numerous awards, including several from the National Society of Newspaper Columnists, the American Academy of Religion, the David Steele Distinguished Writer Award from the Presbyterian Writers Guild in 2003, and is the author of A Gift of Meaning and co-author or They Were Just People: Stories of Rescue in Poland During the Holocaust. He’s also written Woodstock: A Story of Middle Americans and is co-author, with the Rev. Dr. Paul T. Rock, of the book Jesus, Pope Francis and a Protestant Walk into a Bar: Lessons for the Christian Church. Bill is an elder at Second Church. He is past president of the National Society of Newspaper Columnists and served on the board of directors of Kansas City Hospice and Palliative Care, and the Kansas City Interfaith Youth Alliance.